What’s up my people!
So I just woke up and had to scribble down these thoughts of mine before I forget them.
One of the big issue for a lot of people who gets into this whole self improvement /personal development field is that they don’t know where to start.
There isn’t a seamlessly learning path that we can start on.
Because we are all different and have different issues. So in some areas we feel like the boss, but in others we feel lacking.
There is no clear path we can take to become a better man/woman. We must find troubled areas in our existence and work on them.
From an early age, we’ve been taught to learn in a step-by-step process.
First you get the basics down — then you move on to the next level and the next.
Which can be related back to the learning process of a skill by George Leonard.
However in something as vague as Self Improvement. Which you can’t really call a skillset.
We have to realize that there is no path to learn this.
There is no linear path you can take and at end of it — become a better man.
A realization I had is you never stop growing. You never stop learning.
If we go by that definition then it means we will never reach perfection — because what is perfection anyways.
So striving for perfection is rather trivial in my opinion. But rather you want to strive to dominant any area in your life.
The Alpha and Omega
So without a clear cut path for us to follow to the ascendancy of a better man and a seamlessly learning process that never stops.
It can be quite daunting and confusing. Because what do we actually do. What do we actually focus on?
There’s only one thing you need to think about in terms of self improvement or even pickup.
One thing that is the be all and end all — in deciding if you’re going to grow or stay as you are.
That thing is “pushing your comfort zones”.
If you keep pushing your comfort zones. Keep putting yourself into an environment which will push you. Then you will keep growing.
That is the only thing you need to worry about.
If you don’t push your comfort zones then you’ll stagnate, at worst you’ll regress and your comfort zone will shrink.
That’s why you see a lot of people who was great at some point, then take a drastic turn for the worse.
It’s usually people where we go:
“I wonder what happened to him, he seemed to do so great before..”.
So as long as you keep challenging yourself you will not stop growing.
Kind of like the above picture.
You must leave your nest. The nest which has been your world for the last couple months and expand that world and your comfort zone.
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Thank you so much for your post, Allan! I agree with you that growth is continual — perfection is the journey, not a destination. I hadn’t thought about the possibility of regressing, yet I see it so often.
What an insightful way to start my day!
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Hi Tammy, and thanks for your comment.
Yes regression is definitely something one needs to be aware of. However I also would say if you reach a certain standard of excellence then that skill you’ve learned will always in some form be in your backbone. Kind of like riding a bike.
However with skills where we haven’t reached a “excellent standard” in. They will easily be forgotten if you don’t use it.
A good example is when I was a young kid, I learned to speak german. I was good at it. But after the 9th grade I never used it again. Then my german got worse and now I can barely speak it.
I so agree with you Allan.
In the past I was always very uncomfortable with change but over time it’s really necessary not only for your personal life but professional as well. Nothing remains the same so you can gripe about it or learn to go with it.
Like you mentioned, the problem most people have is where to start. That same thing happened to me which is why I was a work in progress for about four years. I started at the beginning and eventually found more and more information that would help me learn and continue to move forward.
I hope everyone will continue to grow and not let little things hold them back. Be everything you can be today and think where you will end up tomorrow. It’s a wonderful experience.
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Good stuff!
Allan, is your pic an actual pic of you? As a kid, I presume?
Hey Jennifer,
Haha just a very bad pic.
Aw, it’s cute.
Thanks for sharing this great article. I really like the way you think about self improvement and I totally agree with you. Keep on the good work.
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Hey Peter,
Thanks for the comment, always appreciated here.
You present some great information. A person’s comfort zone, in time, if not expanded actually entraps you and keeps you from growing. The problem is that you don’t even recognize it.
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